Music/DJ Chair's Reponsibilities at the Party

Music is crucial for the success of your party. No music playing equals no dancing, which equals no excitement. This chain of events can lead to people leaving your party. So make sure that you have a DJ or a long playlist to keep the party going. I recommend having a brother or a professional being the DJ--as you tend to get better music selection, and it’s easier to manage the volume. Invest in some quality speakers so the music can sound like it’s at a club and not in your living room.

In terms of genre and types of song, party music should progress to dancing music, not start with dancing music. A good DJ will know what songs to play that will make people dance and have fun. In later posts, I will let you know certain songs to play depending on the theme or party.

Security Chair Responsibilities at the Party

For any event that you have it is important to have at least two sober brothers. This is important for your risk management. Basically, if the cops come, you have someone who is sober and coherent to talk to them. Also, if someone cuts themselves, get hurts, etc, then you have someone who can drive them to the hospital.

You should rotate a couple of your brothers for each event and party that you have. You should also set the example by being sober for some of your events. A reward system is quite useful in motivating those to be sober brothers. You can reward them with a 12 pack of beer or other alcohol for them to use later in the week. For your larger events and parties, you should have brothers be sober and do security. Depending on how big your house is, the number of brothers you will need to do security. 

You should have three sober brothers at your main entrance or gate. If you have a guest list for the party, then one of your sober security brothers should be in charge of it. Three sober brothers at the gate should be enough to deter any possible unwanted party crashers. There should be at least two other sober brothers roaming your frat house during the party to make sure that no one is doing an suspicious activity (stealing stuff, assaulting girls, putting GHB in drinks, etc). These two brothers should also make sure that no girls are puking in the bathroom or having alcohol poisoning. It is also a good idea to make sure that the music volume is not too loud because you might get a complaint from your neighbors. 

Having proper security is very important as it can save your house a lot of trouble and money. It lowers your risk of being ticketed or cited by the police, and it lowers the risk of damages to your house. For your extremely large annual parties, you might even want to budget in some money for some professionals. Make sure that the professional security guards are bonded so you don’t get sued if they hurt an unwanted guest.

Choreograph Your Party

Every social that you plan will be your social. You planned it, and people will associate everything that happens to your planning skills. With that being said, you must make the effort to make people, at your social event, socialize. So if you see a group of brothers taking to each other, then go over to them, break up their conversation, and take a few to meet some girls. Not every guy in your house is outgoing. Most are quite shy, but it is your job to help them break out of their shells. Also, if you see a group of girls standing by themselves then take one of your shyer brothers and start a conversation with them. The girls will appreciate that you took the time to cross the room to initiate conversation with them.

During the party, it is your responsibility to make sure that there are no problems. For instance, you should make sure that there are enough beverages and cups provided. Make sure you have enough ice for the event. Do things during the party to attain your goal: the happiness of your brothers and the female guests. Be a good courteous host.

Act Like You Are Having Fun

No matter how bad you might think the party is, the worst thing to do is show your feelings about the terrible party. If you and a bunch of your friends are having fun, then people will observe your excitement and attempt to mimic it. Humans, especially females, love doing things that are popular. If a group of girls are having a bad time at a party, but they observe a group of guys having lots of fun, then they will wonder why those guys are having fun. The goal for girls at a party is to have fun. If they see people having fun, then they will do whatever they are doing in order to have fun like everyone else.

Party Tip: Separate the Girls

The best chance you have of your guys meeting girls is to separate them. By nature, girls go in packs of at least two to five girls. You see this when girls go to the bathroom. You would think that a 20-year-old girl is fully capable of peeing by herself. Yet, girls need their friends to make them feel confident and comfortable. Another reason to separate a pack of girls is that they love to cockblock guys. If a guy approaches a group of girls, but only flirts with one of the girls, then the other girls in the group will try to get rid of the guy. A girl doesn’t want to see her friend being hit on by a guy when she’s not getting hit on. It makes the girl who is not being paid attention to feel ugly. 

If a guy manages to take the girl away from her friends and talk to her, then he has a much better chance of getting hooking up with her. In order to break up the pack of girls, a guy will need other guys to talk and distract the girl’s friends, so their buddy can hook up. If all girls are being noticed and talked to, then they will not think about their friend hooking up, but they will be forced to concentrate on the conversation at hand.

A good way to separate girls is to make your party into different rooms. What I mean by this is to have stuff going on in guys' rooms. Instead of having the party in the living room, where girls can remain in packs, have it in a smaller room and girls will be forced to separate due to space considerations. Without her friends around for support, a girl will have to meet guys and talk to them. Also, when a girl is alone, it makes it a lot easier for a guy to talk to them because there aren’t any distractions.

Setting Up for a Party

When you are setting up for your party, you need to arrange the room maximize certain things. There are a few things to remember when it comes to setting up the party. These things can change depending on the scope of your party. I will go into detail for those specific situations later when I talk about specific types of parties. For general purposes, I will assume that you are setting up a cocktail party of some sort. For this cocktail party, the first thing you need to recognize is the flow of people and the party.

When you host a party, you need to make sure that people know where to enter, drink, and dance. In order to make it easy for people to do the aforementioned things, you need to move a few objects. The entrance should lead the guests to the main drinking room. When a guest enters this main drinking room from the entrance of your frat, the first thing they should see is the bar (if you don’t have a bar, then build one or use a large table). The bar should never be in the middle of the room, but it should be put in one of the corners or sides of the room. When the bar is located in the corner of a room, it allows people to easily see it and get their drinks in an orderly fashion. Remember that people tend to line up in front of the bar and stay there for long periods of time. To accommodate this, you should never put the bar by the entrance to the main drinking room, as this make the room too crowded by the entryway. 

The dancing room should be in a separate room from the main drinking room. The bar should also be as far away from the dancing room as possible, since you don’t want the music to be extremely loud by the bar. If music is too loud by the bar, then it’s difficult for guests to order a drink and converse with each other. You should have a couple of couches in the room so people can rest. These couches should be between the bar and the dancing room. If the couches were near the bar, then it would make the way to the bar too crowded, and this would make it difficult for guest to get their drinks. The couches are also there to show where socializing area is. The area between the dancing room and the bar will be the place where people congregate to converse and enjoy themselves. It shouldn’t be too crowded in that area, since people will have other areas to go, such as the dance floor or the bar. 

Also, a big thing is have plenty of trash cans. Your Clean-Up Chair will thank you for putting trash cans out. If your guests see trash cans, and they are conveniently located, they will throw away their drinks by themselves. Place large trash cans, next to the bar, main entrance, and entrance to dancing room. Ideally you should use the 32 gallon green trash cans with a liner in them. Trash cans will make your party much better!