How to Solve Party Problems

There will always be some sort of problem at your party. No party goes completely flawless. The question you have to ask yourself is, “Are you prepared to solve potential problems?” You should always have a backup plan or option. For example, if the alcohol runs out quicker than expected, then you should always have a reserve handle to bring out. Here are some common problems and their solutions:

Problem: What if there is a below average number of girls that show up to the social event?

Solution: It is not directly your fault for a below average showing of girls. The girls might have too much homework to do. In another case, that particular sorority may not have the best relations with your chapter, so it will be a few more events with that house until there is a better showing. Sometimes the theme of the party may not be that good. If that’s the case, then it’s your fault. However, you should always learn from your mistakes.

Problem: What if there is a below average number of brothers that show up to the social event?

Solution: This might often happen in your first weeks as social chair. There are a couple of reasons why brothers don’t go to socials. The first reason is that the brothers in the house may not like partying with the sorority that you scheduled the event with. The second reason is that brothers might have midterms or other schoolwork that takes precedence over partying. You should consult your brothers after the poor turnout to see how you, as a social chair, can improve.

Problem: The cops come. What do I do?

Solution: Make sure you turn off the music at it will most likely be a noise complaint. Make sure that no one has any drinks outside where the cops can see. Do not give them a reason to make them enter your house. Your sober brothers and president should talk to the cops. Be courteous and do not argue. The cops will appreciate it that you have sober brothers and are taking steps to make sure that you are partying safely. That doesn’t mean that they won’t give you a ticket, but it can lower your risk of being arrested or fined.

Security Chair Responsibilities at the Party

For any event that you have it is important to have at least two sober brothers. This is important for your risk management. Basically, if the cops come, you have someone who is sober and coherent to talk to them. Also, if someone cuts themselves, get hurts, etc, then you have someone who can drive them to the hospital.

You should rotate a couple of your brothers for each event and party that you have. You should also set the example by being sober for some of your events. A reward system is quite useful in motivating those to be sober brothers. You can reward them with a 12 pack of beer or other alcohol for them to use later in the week. For your larger events and parties, you should have brothers be sober and do security. Depending on how big your house is, the number of brothers you will need to do security. 

You should have three sober brothers at your main entrance or gate. If you have a guest list for the party, then one of your sober security brothers should be in charge of it. Three sober brothers at the gate should be enough to deter any possible unwanted party crashers. There should be at least two other sober brothers roaming your frat house during the party to make sure that no one is doing an suspicious activity (stealing stuff, assaulting girls, putting GHB in drinks, etc). These two brothers should also make sure that no girls are puking in the bathroom or having alcohol poisoning. It is also a good idea to make sure that the music volume is not too loud because you might get a complaint from your neighbors. 

Having proper security is very important as it can save your house a lot of trouble and money. It lowers your risk of being ticketed or cited by the police, and it lowers the risk of damages to your house. For your extremely large annual parties, you might even want to budget in some money for some professionals. Make sure that the professional security guards are bonded so you don’t get sued if they hurt an unwanted guest.

Act Like You Are Having Fun

No matter how bad you might think the party is, the worst thing to do is show your feelings about the terrible party. If you and a bunch of your friends are having fun, then people will observe your excitement and attempt to mimic it. Humans, especially females, love doing things that are popular. If a group of girls are having a bad time at a party, but they observe a group of guys having lots of fun, then they will wonder why those guys are having fun. The goal for girls at a party is to have fun. If they see people having fun, then they will do whatever they are doing in order to have fun like everyone else.

Party Tip: Separate the Girls

The best chance you have of your guys meeting girls is to separate them. By nature, girls go in packs of at least two to five girls. You see this when girls go to the bathroom. You would think that a 20-year-old girl is fully capable of peeing by herself. Yet, girls need their friends to make them feel confident and comfortable. Another reason to separate a pack of girls is that they love to cockblock guys. If a guy approaches a group of girls, but only flirts with one of the girls, then the other girls in the group will try to get rid of the guy. A girl doesn’t want to see her friend being hit on by a guy when she’s not getting hit on. It makes the girl who is not being paid attention to feel ugly. 

If a guy manages to take the girl away from her friends and talk to her, then he has a much better chance of getting hooking up with her. In order to break up the pack of girls, a guy will need other guys to talk and distract the girl’s friends, so their buddy can hook up. If all girls are being noticed and talked to, then they will not think about their friend hooking up, but they will be forced to concentrate on the conversation at hand.

A good way to separate girls is to make your party into different rooms. What I mean by this is to have stuff going on in guys' rooms. Instead of having the party in the living room, where girls can remain in packs, have it in a smaller room and girls will be forced to separate due to space considerations. Without her friends around for support, a girl will have to meet guys and talk to them. Also, when a girl is alone, it makes it a lot easier for a guy to talk to them because there aren’t any distractions.